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Five ideas for those who do not know how to justify their desire to move to another country from the head of the company "Second Passport" Yuri Mosh

The phenomenon of emigration is as old as the world: people in ancient times left their homes and went to explore new countries and continents. The difficulties that were overcome were almost always similar, but the attitude of those who stayed at home towards the emigration process and those who left often changed. There are many examples of how the inhabitants of some countries, the emigration ceased to be perceived as an adventure, an important project or an attempt to change their lives, and turned into a synonym for betrayal. And it is abundantly clear that even now we are again going through a period of aggressive division of the world and rejection of our own, alien, everything that is not similar to the life and habits we live by.

America, which became a new home for me more than seven years ago, completely consists of immigrants from different periods. But even here you can feel that the fear of being rejected by those who stayed in their homeland is almost a stronger stopping factor than the fear of not finding a good job, not adapting to a new society, not providing children with good living conditions, learning and development. Recently, I spoke with a woman in her early 40s who won the Green Card (residence permit in the USA). She has fluent English, has a small design bureau that works on a remote basis and provides her with a steady income sufficient to start a life in America. In a conversation, she suddenly burst into tears, admitting that she was afraid of the final move. She is afraid, because her friends, relatives, even her parents consider her selfish, who does not want to endure difficulties in her homeland, looking for better conditions for living. They simply harassed her with their reproaches. According to my observations, many are tormented. But there are five ideas that will help the moving person to explain, first of all to himself, that moving to another country is not a betrayal, not a betrayal, not cowardice, not selfishness, but a normal process if you live in the 21st century.

First, 99% of us did not give a written undertaking not to leave the place. Ask yourself the question: are you a scout, a nuclear physicist, can your knowledge damage the country you're leaving from? Most likely no. So, even when you were engaged in your professional activity, you did not take on the obligation to live and work in a particular country indefinitely. Yes, there are corporations in the West that will sign an agreement with you, under which it will not be possible to terminate a contract earlier than a certain period, a lot of documents on non-disclosure of trade secrets and protection of intellectual property. But even in this case we are talking only about the conditions of the sale by you of your working time and professional skills and abilities, and not yourself. You did not sign with the country where you were born, such a contract means that you do not violate anything not only from a legal but also from an ethical point of view.

Secondly, relocation does not lead to the need to change religion, political or any other convictions. Of course, in different countries cultural and ethnic characteristics can be very different: somewhere they wear closed clothes, somewhere it is not customary to drink alcohol, somewhere not too many churches. But when you cross a border or borders, you remain yourself, and adaptation and socialization in a new country can take many different forms. You do not give up what was valuable and dear to you in your homeland, such as language, culture, religion. You just complement your horizons with new languages, knowledge of the history of another country, its traditions.

Thirdly, when moving to another country, a person does not automatically refuse his friends and relatives. Perhaps, 200–300 years ago, those who dared to go by boat to America were really lost forever for their village, their relatives, their community. Letters were sent for months, constantly lost, there was no telephone connection or the Internet yet - no wonder that emigration was akin to death or missing. Now it is enough to turn on Skype, and you not only talk to a close person, but also see it. It is enough to go on the Internet, press a couple of buttons and you have a plane ticket in your hands anywhere in the world to meet the one you miss. Of course, it is nicer and more convenient when a friend lives in the next house, and her parents are in the next street. But to object to the movement and development of another person for the sake of their own convenience and unwillingness to master modern means of communication is at least selfish, and at most cruel.

Fourth, hardly anyone promised the country, relatives, neighbors, and acquaintances to stand together stoically with difficulties. To suffer and to enjoy it, to avoid decisive steps and changes that can radically improve life, is generally in our mentality. But if you look at it from a modern point of view, if you feel bad somewhere, no one will reward you for suffering deprivation. You just waste your time, sparing yourself and spending years in torment. Besides, saving everyone around is not your area of ​​responsibility. Even when it comes to relatives and relatives, it is worth remembering the rules that are usually read out by flight attendants: first put on an oxygen mask on yourself, then on a child or a weaker one, otherwise you will die both. In addition, any psychologist will tell you that healthy egoism is one of the forms of self-preservation, and to give it up for the approval of others is about the same thing as trampling on one’s self-esteem.

Despite the fact that we live in the XXI century, if a person decides to emigrate, there will always be those who will first try to convince him, then he will frighten and put pressure on him, and then maybe he will even start persecuting or at best start ignoring the left. It sounds strange, but our desire to see the vast world outside our city and country can be even more challenging to a real relationship with us around, than a disease, imprisonment or monetary difficulties. And with this test, you can cope, only realizing that, making a difficult decision to move, you do not betray anyone, but only give vent to your dreams and plans.

Source - https://blogs.korrespondent.net/blog/world/4029553/

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